Tuesday, February 28, 2006
Have a great moment - every moment!
Monday, February 27, 2006
The result - I felt that I was the one being loved by all. I noticed: I complained a lot less; that I was happily doing things that I would normally find a chore; I felt more energised and that I was utilising my energy a lot more effectively.
I have now learnt that the art of receiving is giving. I am still in the mood for love – valentines’ are in the air!
Friday, February 24, 2006
- Write as many virtues on a piece of paper that you can think of, or buy a book of virtues!
- Select a group of people you often spend time with: colleagues, friends, family etc.
- Then just before you go to bed list at least 5 to 6 virtues for each Person on your list (Be generous!)
- Enjoy each list of virtues as if each is a flower creating it’s own fragrance, meditate on them until they give you a certain feeling.....it feels good.
I was amazed at the results. The day after I did this I really felt that my attitude had shifted and the old thoughts - that were negative and not helping me - were no longer filled with life.
Going into work the next day, the lift doors opened and I imagined walking into a garden.
Enjoy the fragrance!
Wednesday, February 22, 2006
The thought manifests as the word;
The word manifests as the deed;
The deed develops into habits;
And habits harden into character.
So watch the thought and its way with care;
And let it spring from love;
Born out of concern for all beings.
For all to enjoy – have a gr8 day
Tuesday, February 21, 2006
A Gem from the week!
I am working with a practise of looking back at each day - and also during the day when I can- to see what worked and why it worked. The thoughts that came were really very simple here. This situation is an example. We had a very big event at work--- high profile for the department etc, everyone's stress levels edging upwards!... After my class in the morning I made a determined decision: I'm not going to go in that direction, no matter what happens... The thought in my mind was: I need to be aware of how I am being / what am I sharing at all times. A little later in the day when I could take some time for proper reflection and look back at the day to see how it had gone I considered, what was it that helped me and the situation remain stable when we discovered that the course materials hadn't shown up. The other person -the presenter- was very upset with me (note - I'm the organiser of the event!) At that time the feelings that flowed from me to the presenter were - calmness, love, understanding and an echo of the thought I am not going there with you. I just said: we'll find them, they'll show up, I'll look into it. Then by contrast as soon as I became aware of the role I was playing, of what 'I' had to do, i.e. find the box of materials, the emotions changed in me and as if by magic the qualities vanished. Then when I asked myself the question: how am I going to be? -the qualities like companions appeared back in my mind.....
The materials did turn up 45 mins later.
Today I received an apology from 'the presenter', the person who was upset with me 'the event organiser'.
Moral of the story for me: play the part - be my best - I am not the part I play.
Monday, February 20, 2006
We have all experienced stress at one level or another. I may not have actually punched somebody on the nose or thrown any objects out of a window, but I have definitely thought of doing both of these at some points back down the line when the pressure has been rising. I used to think ‘so-and-so is the cause of my stress’ and I used to vent my emotions on the people whom I love. I now know that the external things are just triggers, and that when I begin to feel stressed the first thing I need to do is to check myself. So today, when I find myself in stressful situations I first try to make time for a few moments of silence – in the toilet (!), picking up the telephone receiver, or pretending to look busy if I am at work… this allows me to create the ‘space’ I need to de-clutter my mind before I begin to handle the situation. These few moments of silence allow me to find the solution to the problem and enable me to respond to the situation rather than just react to it.
I cannot say I am free from stress but I have at least taken a step forward, to do something about it...
Why am I sharing this? Just a reminder to myself…
"... when I have faith in myself I no longer fear. I no longer fear if others change their opinions or feelings. I no longer fear changes in circumstances. Change is life's religion. Once I let go of the tendency to become attached to 'what I know' and trust myself instead I can explore new horizons, try new things, because now I believe in my intrinsic goodness. I trust in my true self. I have faith in myself because I am a positive being and this consciousness allows my positivity to emerge."
Sunday, February 19, 2006
Last week wasn't the greatest in my life, everything I did somehow went wrong. I was feeling very upset and I was complaining about absolutely everything. It then struck me that complaining wasn't changing anything, in fact it was making me feel worse. However, I realised that even if I could not change the situation I could change my attitude towards it and I found that doing this changed the way I was feeling. I decided that now was probably a good time to practice patience and tolerance and with these thoughts I found that everything became a better colour. So now I think that nothing is really bad or good, it just depends on how one thinks it is.
Thursday, February 16, 2006
Wednesday, February 15, 2006
Tuesday, February 14, 2006
So, I got on the bus to work with these thoughts and my attention was caught by a 'fat' lady who tripped and almost fell flat on the floor... immediately the thought came to me "she is not a fat lady, she is a world!" This was such an inspiring thought: that each one of us is a world, full of beauty, rivers, mountains, flowers, dark valleys... We should never judge. We should never just see the superficial because then we miss the beauty.
I then realised that I was smiling broadly for no apparent reason. I knew though: I had just seen pure beauty!
Monday, February 13, 2006
As 8.30am drew near I walked back to my car to pay for parking (free parking ends at 8:30am in central London!) When I approached the car Steve was wide awake and sitting up straight. He greeted me in a strong and blaring voice with “Good morning!” I responded with a barely audible “Hi” and a smile, and continued to sort out paying for parking until 9.01am.
Running late, as usual (!) I arrived back at the car at 9.05am. There were two traffic wardens near my car. If you drive in central London at all you will be aware that there are quite a number of traffic wardens around! I very luckily escaped the ordeal of being handed a parking fine thanks to Steve! When I arrived at my car Steve was arguing with the traffic wardens on my behalf and telling them that they shouldn’t be issuing me with a parking fine as he saw me putting money in the parking meter earlier on. The traffic wardens were so caught up in justifying their position to Steve that I was given the window to drive hurriedly off before they got around to issuing me with a parking ticket. As I drove off I thought to myself, why would someone like Steve extend his help to someone like me? He has such a generous heart.
What trigger such a generous heart? Is it because I returned his greeting and acknowledged his presence?I realised that life presents many little gifts and many little opportunities to share these little gifts. However, am I too caught up in my little “world” to expand my heart to catch those gifts and share them?